Why Sharing Your Story Can Transform Your Career
Starting a new job often means getting to know your boss and
colleagues on a more personal level. Recently, I attended a multi-day
conference with my new team, and naturally, conversations about our personal
lives came up. My boss asked about my family, extended family, and life in
general. As I shared details, I found myself saying, “I promise my life isn’t
really this interesting, even if it sounds that way.” To which he replied,
“It’s just life!” Which was very refreshing to hear.
That comment stuck with me. When I returned home, I told my
ex-husband about the conversation. It made me reflect on how we often view our
lives as “ordinary,” but when we pause to share our experiences—the jobs we’ve
held, the dynamics of our families, raising kids—it’s clear that everyone’s
life is uniquely interesting. The trouble is, most people don’t share their
stories.
Looking back on my 20+ years in the corporate world, I
remember when sharing personal details at work, especially as a woman, was
strongly discouraged. It was seen as unprofessional or as a sign that you
weren’t focused on the job. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve been told,
“You can’t tell them that,” or “Don’t mention that.”
However, as I’ve grown in my career and leadership journey,
I’ve realized that being authentic and humanizing yourself can be a strength.
When you’re open about who you are, you’re more likely to connect with the
right people and find the right opportunities.
On the flip side, when you’re in a place where you feel you
can’t truly be yourself, it’s a breeding ground for anxiety, stress, and even
depression. Wearing a mask to “fit in” or “play the game”—a phrase I heard
endlessly early in my career—takes a toll. Over time, it erodes your
authenticity and leaves you drained, unable to bring your best self to the
table.
I’m here to tell you: Don’t play the game. Be yourself. Not
everyone will like you, and that’s okay. You aren’t meant for everyone, and
everyone isn’t meant for you. But hiding who you are or where you come from
will eventually eat away at your well-being. Authenticity is not just
liberating; it’s essential to thriving in both your personal and professional
life.
So, share your story. Embrace your unique journey. You might
be surprised by how much it resonates with others and by the doors it can open
for you.
Lesson Learned:
One key lesson I’ve learned is that authenticity is a
powerful tool, both professionally and personally. Embracing who you are and
sharing your story creates genuine connections and builds trust. It’s not about
fitting into a mold but about showing up as your true self. While it can feel
vulnerable at times, this openness often leads to deeper relationships, new
opportunities, and a greater sense of fulfillment in your work and life.
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