Not Everyone Is Your Friend—and That’s Okay

 

Let’s talk about something that doesn’t always get the spotlight: real friendship.

Not surface-level.
Not social media perfect.
Not “only shows up when it’s convenient.”

I’m talking about the kind of friendship that feels like home.

A real friend is someone you can talk to about anything without fear of judgment. They don’t just listen to you, they see you. The messy parts. The dreams. The doubts. All of it. And they cheer you on without a hint of jealousy because your success makes them genuinely happy.

A real friend doesn’t always tell you what you want to hear. They tell you what you need to hear. They’ll call you out when you’re wrong, not to hurt you, but to help you grow. Because they love you that much.

They’re the ones who show up when life is beautiful and when it’s broken. They’re consistent. Honest. Loyal. Rooted in your life in the best way.

In today’s world, it’s easy to feel like we have 100s of “friends.” We connect with people from high school, our neighborhood, coworkers, and our kids’ sports teams. We follow each other on social media, like each other’s posts, maybe even chat from time to time. But let’s be honest: most of those people aren’t true friends, they’re acquaintances. And that’s okay. Real friendship isn’t about quantity. It’s not dozens or hundreds of people, it’s often just one to three people in your life. I know that sounds harsh, but it’s the truth. And that truth can be freeing.

 

So, here’s my challenge for you this week:
Think about who your true friends are.
Who checks in on you when no one else does?
Who holds you accountable and holds space for you?
Who celebrates you, pushes you, and never lets you shrink?

Once you know who those people are—nourish those relationships. Even in the busyness of life, send the text. Make the call. Schedule the coffee. Let them know you see them, love them, and appreciate them. Because real friendship is rare—and it's one of the most sacred connections we get to have.