What your triggers are really trying to tell you…

 


We’ve all had those moments when someone says or does something, and suddenly we feel that familiar surge of frustration, sadness, or anger. That’s what it means to be triggered. And while it may feel uncomfortable, a trigger is really the universe’s way of saying, “Pay attention there’s something inside you that needs healing.”

When you’re triggered, it’s not just about the situation in front of you. It’s about old wounds, limiting beliefs, and past stories that are being stirred up and brought to the surface. That’s when the real work begins. Instead of ignoring the discomfort or blaming someone else for how you feel, take a moment to reflect. Ask yourself: What inside of me needs my attention? Why am I feeling the way I do right now? Where did this belief, anger, or sadness first begin? These questions help you dig deeper so you can uncover the root of the trigger instead of just reacting to it.

It’s always easier to dismiss the feeling and point the finger outward, but growth comes when you choose to sit with the discomfort and do the work. The truth is, everyone has triggers, it’s how you deal with them and work through them that shows your growth. Each trigger you face is really an invitation to heal, to let go of what no longer serves you, and to move closer to freedom in the present moment.

So, the next time you feel yourself being triggered, pause, take a deep breath, and remember that this isn’t something to fear or avoid. It’s an opportunity. The discomfort you feel is simply a doorway to deeper understanding, healing, and transformation. Triggers aren’t here to hold you back, they’re here to guide you forward.


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